So early on the funeral home asked for me to write an obituary that they could post on their website and then I was told it could also be sent out to the local newspaper. Not gonna lie, I was kinda surprised about the newspaper part…do people really still do that? I mean newspapers at least around this area are fairly obsolete it seems, but I was assurred by a few people that yes local newspapers do still print Obituaries (and people DO still read them LOL) and I should consider it. Well knowing my mom, my first reaction was UMMMMM NO! She would not want an Obit written and she certainely wouldn’t wanted it splashed across one or more newspapers. And then once I discovered that on the low end an obituary is like $200 to submit I definetely was like no way! Mom would rather I play the lottery with that money then waste it on her obituary. And I’m sorry but that just seems outrageous to ask a family to spend that kind of money on something like that especially during the whole grieving process (I have a feeling I’ll be discussing my feelings about the craziness of the funeral industry at some point especially when it comes to money so be prepared).
So I put off writing the Obituary. I mean in this day and age of Social Media and in particular Facebook, I feel like anybody that needed to know already did and there had already been several posts and pictures floating around so why did I need to do something formal. Honestly, Why did I need to put myself through that. My emotions are pretty raw and fragile as it is. Then I got the Life Insurance packet that I needed to fill out to file the claim. And guess what it fricking asks for….yup the Obituary, are you kidding me. You have the Death Certificate people why would you need the obituary too, not sure a copy of that proves anything more. Shaking My Head! So here I sat in the same spot I am now, trying to concisely put in to words some sort of eulogy that remotely paid her justice.
I got through it and I won’t lie I’m kinda glad I have like an official link to share and people can write in the guestbook and all that… so in the end I guess it was theraputic. But I seriously hate feeling like I was forced into doing something that not only did I not want to do, but my mom wouldn’t have wanted me to have to do either.
So here it is for those of you who want to see it….the official Obituary of Patricia “Patti” C, Best.
https://www.colonialfuneralhome.com/obituary/5815861
You Had The Power All Along, My Dear 